Bonnie Ware was a palliative nurse that cared for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She conducted surveys of regrets people had while close to death. She recorded five recurring responses.
This was a great way to gather wisdom. I enjoy chatting with older people and for my love of older people, I am often labeled as an “old soul.” I can learn something from anyone but more from older people. They have more life experience than I do. Bonnie used her position to explore the true thoughts of these people while they were in a vulnerable state of mind.
I’ve revisited this article a few times over the last few years to remind me of things I would like to improve on. I’ve never made a conscious decision to improve one of them but by reading over it numerous times, it is ingrained in my subconscious to improve in these five areas.
Aristotle said happiness is realized at the end of life. I interpret this to mean that we must work now towards happiness so when we are near the end of life we can have that moment when we decide that we are satisfied with our lives and can exclaim we are truly happy with it.
My thinking is if one has regrets, one is not satisfied with themselves currently. Regrets are not always negative. If someone can realize by introspection, outside opinion, or other ways that they are not happy with themselves, then they can start a plan to remedy the issue. Everyone is the sum of their life experiences. We know there are less-than-idea moments in our lives. That does not mean that we cannot reframe those moments, learn from them, and grow ourselves in the Human Capital category.
I will be writing five separate posts on each of the five most common regrets that Bonnie discovered with her patients. I will talk about my philosophy pertaining to each, and steps I will or have been taking in attempt to not say I regret any of them whilst on my deathbed 🙂
I hope it will spark something in you as well, Reader. I encourage you to pick one regret from the list and think about it for a month. What can one do to improve it? What may be barriers to one improving? What is something I am missing about these regrets? The head of the Internet is better than one. Let me know your thoughts!